VICTIMS take on average 35 attempts to leave an abusive relationship for good, according to domestic abuse charity Swindon Women’s Aid.

The charity is once again working with the Swindon Community Safety Partnership to raise awareness of the issue during Domestic Violence Awareness Week, which runs until November 28.

Domestic violence can affect people from all ages, genders, backgrounds and cultures and from April 2012 and March 2013, more than 2,450 incidents of domestic were reported to Wiltshire Police in Swindon.

But it is estimated that only 20 per cent of all incidents are reported, and the aim of the week is to raise awareness of how people can seek help.

Jo Heaven, business development manager at Swindon Women’s Aid, said: “How many times does it take someone to leave a violent relationship? Thirty-five times is the average answer.

“That is 34 times of denying, apologising, excusing and submitting once again to a cycle of abuse.

“Too frightened to pack the bag, tell someone or make arrangements to leave due to fear of reprisals. Hoping that the perpetrator will change like they had said they would 34 times before.”

The outreach team at Swindon Women’s Aid works with women and their families who are desperate to escape from abuse.

With the charity’s support, victims such as 23-year-old X, who cannot be identified, are able to break free to live happier and safer lives.

A Swindon Women’s Aid spokesman said: “When I first met with X she minimised all of the domestic abuse which was present in her relationship and was very dubious to accept support.

"X had been subjected to physical, sexual and emotional abuse as well as dealing with high levels of control and isolation. X’s self-esteem was very low and she lived in fear.

“It took X time to recognise any of the abuse within her relationship. However, following the birth of her son her main priority was making sure they were both safe. X then became empowered and found the strength to report to the police.

“Her confidence continued to grow and she even stood up in court and provided evidence, which resulted in a conviction. She was re-housed in Swindon and started a new life.

“X is now very open about her experiences and states without the help of Swindon Women’s Aid she would have never achieved the positive changes she made.”

Between 2102 and 2013, Swindon Women’s Aid Outreach workers supported 482 women and men examine their choices when it came to abusive relationships.

Anyone who is affected by domestic violence can contact Swindon Women’s Aid on 01793 610610, or for more information visit www.swindonwomensaid.org