He doesn't love me

MY boyfriend and I have been going out for three years now.

I’m still with him, even though he has told me that he doesn’t love me and won’t marry me.

We argue a lot these days and he says we should call it a day, but, if I then tell him to go, he says that if we’re going to finish, I’ve got to do it. But why should I? I don’t understand why he just doesn’t end it - it’s as if he can’t leave me. - SS

Fiona says: You are both trapped in a loveless, uncaring non-relationship that is causing pain for both sides - yet neither of you will finish it because you want the other person to take the first step.

Does this not strike you as just a bit daft? Come on you two - grow up and move on. Life is too short to waste it like this.  

My husband is a thief

I HAVE always thought my husband was honest, so I was deeply hurt when he was found guilty of stealing from his employer.

I was also shocked to learn he had a criminal record for similar offences.

He has just started a one-year prison sentence and I just don’t know how I am going to cope. This is the first time anything like this has happened in my family and I am very embarrassed and hurt by it.

I do still love him and want to visit him, but am terrified of going to the prison. -RH

Fiona says: I’m so sorry, I am sure this must be very upsetting for you. Finding out someone you love and trust is not who and what you thought they were is shocking.

There is help available though. Action for Prisoners’ and Offenders’ Families merged with Family Lives (familylives.org.uk) a couple of years ago, but they still help families affected by imprisonment.

There is also the National Offenders’ Families Helpline on 0808 808 2003.

It’s a freephone number and is open weekdays from 9am-8pm and from 10am-3pm at weekends and supports families in England, Wales and Scotland.

They will help you understand what to expect when you visit your husband.

If you want to give your husband another chance, it’s important that he’s honest with you.